This is just a quick clarification because I notice so many folks imagine ‘the shadow’ is the dark side of us, the rage, the neediness, the greed etc. but the shadow is really just all the parts of ourselves we hid away in the shadows when we were shown or told that that aspect of us was unwelcome or shameful. So, yes, things like rage, neediness and greed did go into the shadow because they were totally rejected and forbidden as kids but many other beautiful and essential parts of us received that cruel and ignorant treatment too. This is why I spend my time guiding people towards the shadows. There is SO much low hanging fruit to be reclaimed with almost no effort.
Wonderful treasure we reclaim from ‘the shadow’ includes:
feeling comfortable to take centre stage
trusting your instincts
allowing the discovery of failure
allowing oneself (and others) to be messy sometimes
singing and arting and creating
allowing our gifts to be seen and enjoyed
being fully honest with family and friends
cracking yourself up
being able to release emotion with crying
experiencing the passion of your anger
standing up for yourself, engaging with causes and healing
laughing at ourselves
allowing others to support us in our vulnerability
enjoying all kinds of pleasure…
….the shadow is not just the dark and yucky bits, it’s all the parts of ourselves we learnt at young ages were ‘unwelcome’ or got us rejected or told off.
It take SO little effort and drama to gently turn towards these places and reclaim their treasure….and there’s a lot of sheepish laughter and friendship in it….
What natural parts of yourself did you shut down as a kid? Any of the above list? Let’s welcome them home together….
(1-day Transforming Shadows in London Sat Feb 3rd, Bristol Sat Feb 9th)